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Well I am going to court again only this time I need references .I am ok there I have about 20 but still I need them  updated ones.I have everything ready for next Wednesday again. C.A.S wants me to go to mediation again and I am refusing  trying to tell I need to  be friends with them I think not .My granddaughter has got a lawyer now so I hope it will help at this point. She don't want to get anyone in trouble but she understands that what he did was wrong and she needs to tell her side to someone who will listen to her. Then we are going to trial because what he did to her he can't get away with it. I found out on the week end  that he slapped his niece on the butt who is now about 27 he has been doing things like for as long as he has been in the dam family and this family thinks its funny  when its not .There all intimated of him there scare they will hurt the aunt so now I am flipping . Not one person in that family will stick up for what's right they say  like let it go Nana will be gone soon  and now its the aunt well at this point I am not a very caring person when it comes to that family when a 9 yr old has been touched in place not 9 yr old should be and this has been going on for about 4yrs now and everyone there knows it. My ex won't even stand up for his granddaughter knowing what his brother-in-law has done .Then come to find out there on methadone  to kick  a habit that they have had for a long time. I know what your thinking what does C.A.S say about it . Well get this  it's ok ...theft..drugs..abuse..what else is left not to much huh. As for me I have a clean record never done anything have 3 grown children and 3 step children  and 7 grands I my very proud of .  I will be back after court with a update  will let ya know how it goes .

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Well here goes again. I have not been in here for abit I have been busy with lots of things . I have been back and forth to court going for the 4th time now on the 28th . Its been a long hall but we doing it. The first time we went to court i had a lawyer but he was not working for me yet now he is . The 2nd time we went to court my daughter was removed for the papers because CAS told her not to go to court there was no need for it .So now she has a lawyer....lol She is back on the papers now they never got there way there . And we keep getting it remanded because CAS is not prepared the fist..the 2nd time was us... the 3rd time was my daughter..and we go again for the 4th time and it will be remanded to I heard maybe... then we come to find out they lied on the papers they put into court by putting a lawyers name on it that they don't have. We both have good lawyers now who are going to look into why Monica was removed in the first place ...and look into the lies that they told..and everything else that was said about my family and said they better have proof.most of the papers that were submitted into court were lies from CAS and the other parties have a plan in place I won't say it now but we are hoping it works and if it does I will for sure let you know . Now Monica is going to counseling for all of this mess that they have caused. Her temper tantrums has settled down a lot because they won't do anything now that CAS in the picture.Have a good case and we will win but there will be butts kicked in the end.And it won't be mine this time. I will not stop until I do win and get my granddaughter protected for him.She needs it and I am here to make sure it is done right for her some one has to .My daughter has stepped up more and has had all she can take as well.I want my daughter to take her daughter back when she is ready not until but when she is it will be the happiest day for all.My daughter is getting married on July 28th and Monica is in the wedding as a brides maid so we are all looking forward to it .But we have to get her away first if it don't go our way we get her that week end because there not invited to the wedding. And if he shows up we police there that are friends that he don't know..lol and will not know about what a surprise for them huh ..We have the police backing now to well some of them. Ihave the school and all the counselors she has been involded with. More then willing to help now keep in mind they told to take her counseling so it will bite them in the ass now. Monica has disclosed so many things to these people that I never even knew. I am also told the I manipulate all of them. This man still goes in with tears in his eyes even in court and its not working now so now there scared and it looks good on them. Becouse now it will be looked into more on why and how this all came about so its about time I would think.But I have to go for now I will be back when I can wish me luck I might need it and thank you all for your suport Sharon

Well tomorrow is the big day that i go to court ..not looking forward to it at all..CAS is blaming me for everything that has happened to Monica .I have been told in the court papers that I am not protecting her and I am causing emotional harm and physical harm to her.Now I have taking her to a doctor and a pediatrician .But CAS is saying I refuse to do that when its been them stopping me from doing anything I have to . I am telling you they sure know how to change things around to there benefit. I had some one here when i told i don't agree with then not doing Monica's hair for the week end..but they put in the papers I said ( I am upset they never bathed her ) what a bunch of bull. So I went out and hopefully got one of the best lawyers in this dam town. I dont know I will see tomorrow in court. They are trying to stop me from moving aswell. I have been so worried about Monica like how much more can this child take from them all.And with a grandma like at her side all the time I belive everything Monica tells me with in reason.. well I will be back tomorrow with an update. well wish me luck I do need it .

Well we are going to court and have to get another lawyer. The CAS has tried to turn things around again.There blaming us for whats going on with Monica and the not ones that are hurting her. Everything we say is turned upside down.Like i said why did they not brush her hair all weekend ....and they put in the court papers i was mad because they never bathed her.If anyone one of them pp had ears to listen with they don't use them very well I tell ya .I told them they go all the way or no way at all whats wrong with them. They think i should take down the no trespassing on the them. Really trying to run my life and i am getting tired of them big time.So i found a lawyer who is not scared to fight them and take it all the way because if i can sue them i am going to for putting my Grandaughter Monica in harms way. they don't want to take her to the family Christmas dinners...or anything just trying to keep her to them selves..we think there afraid she will say something or want to go with her Mom .whicth yes will pee them off big time.Tring to stop us from moving and what ever else we want to do .Hubby retires at the end of Dec. so I gusse moving north is out now for awhile anyway.We have a long fight ahead and just in time for Christmas....Now I get to keep her living with us but they still get to see on the weekends..and an 8mth supervision order placed on us all except one thing the CAS don't work weekends mmmmI gusse that means just on us huh!! But i am going to fight that to .So I will let you all know the out come of that day Wednesday DEC 20th .Well thats all for now will be back soon

My weekend with out Monica is very quite. Well monica had to go again. I it dont matter what the kids want huh as long as CAS has the last word. Again they did not belive Monica and sent back in to the fire. Monica has not disclosed enough for them i gusse I know she has said she dont want this man bathing her again.And i over heard her talking and saying things that are not right again .....Like It don't matter ( CAS ) what they say he will do it again now if she knows that why don;t they mmmmmm.Yes Monica told them that and they choose not to listen. I am so glad we have help this time ..School and others makes a big diff...I am hoping to go to the MP this week to and put in my complaint. They are useing the only thing they have that is conflick lol what a joke huh. Not looking after the childeren if I for what i can see.How are the kids to supose to go to the ones they trust if they can't help them. MOnica is lossing her trust in all of us but we are trying to keep her happy and its getting harder when you have them telling you its your fault she is like this . Not the ones that really done this.Just keep in mind that yes some are out there just have to find them and when you do keep them you will need them one day .

Well have I had the run around theses days. Found out this man has been bathing Monica again and telling her not to tell or he will get in to trouble. But she could not keep it no more, Monica was getting bad with temper tantums .. hitting every one .. yelling at pp ..picking on her sisters. Monica came home on sunday Nov 19 at 6:45 all sad and not her self.When I asked her what was wrongshe had told the he had bathed her again . Well I knew that becouse her hair was wet. Then Monica told me she wanted to home becouse she had missed me that morning, but did not tell them Monica just knew they would not let her come home.A few days had past and one of my daughters were here and ask me who was bleeding I told them no one here is that I know of. She told that I had blood on my toilet seat. So I called Monicas mom and asked her if one of the kids had blood on them and she told me no but she would lookand call me back.It was Monica that had been blood on her she was bleeding a bit from her privet part and some smelly yellow discharge on her undies, well my flag went up again . Thats when I found out that she has been talking to others about this problem and reports went to the CAS again. I called it in. Had an apponment to them . I was told oh dont worrie about everybody gets a yest infection but I was not good with this. So I call the sexual abuse line and was told to get her look at. when CAS found out they no need to get her looked at at this time not to do it . Now did that made me wonder yet .. so I made some calls for advise and every one told me the same thing to get it look at if its nothing thats good . Now evry one I called got in contact with CAS and they told them not to do it so they wouldn.t touch her. Something is worng here I think they are hiding something now. Making me more upset then ever. I took it upond myself and took her to the hosp well wouldn't you know it they called CAS and when they came in went right to the doc and gave Monicas history as they call it. And gusse what no one would look at her again becouse there was no need.The worker got down on one knee and told Monica not to worrie he will never see her naked again . But you know what she never did belive Monica . On our way home from the hosp I asked Monica if she was listening to what was said and told me nope. When I asked why she told me don,t matter what she says he will do it again he always does.Becouse he has had about 10 warnings...lol now if this was you or me noway would we be getting that many our kids would be gone. Now I am pissed. Looking for more sorces now and I will find them.I told them all the signs she has and still nothing. But on the other hand Monica was told by CAS that this man will never see her naked again but he said he never did anyway . And his wife just keeps sticking up for him more and more. I have the proff she was at work when this took place again.Now one would think with all the calls they have had on this they would look into it right becouse I have heard that school call it in 3 times and her cousler had called it in to . And still these pp have called her a lier without saying it.What ever happened to beliving the child and doing an investation becouse they did that they would how many lies are there and not from Monica.Monica has to go there again tonight and i am worried I have some more calls to make including the MP to see what can be done here. I have more running around to do i will keep ever one posted here is a few of her symptoms:I know this one a long one but these are signs and know one is listening to her at all its going to get worse befor it gets better ; But now I have help on my side to fight them and give me adivce now so that I am greatfull for . Thanks for your suport in this the more friends the better so I thank you all

Well I know its been awhile since I was last here for an update.I am back for a bit . Whats been happing mmmm Well about 6 months ago Monica went to the CAS and told what this person was doing to her and they called her a lier well that made her very unpset by this that she refused to talk to any one . So I had to take her to counsling and it has helped her lots.Monica started talking again . Monica has told us that he has been bathing her still. Monica is 8 now and she is fighting for her rights with this person.So anyways we have another meeting at the CAS office again on monday 27th so I am hopping it works out the best for her thia has been going on to long now. And the i see it he keeps getting away with he will keep doing it only it will get worse . But i was told that was enough theres noway a child can keep saying stuff like she has and not be true .He is just not bathing her he is washing and drying her to (yes she knows how to do that on her own) by lifting her up one at a time and washing her like that she is standing up when he does this. She also said that he puts a facecloth over her eyes while he is doing this . He tells its so the soap won't get in her eyes. Monica has stoped her temper tantums since she has opened up and thats a good thing. He has been telling her again not to tell anyone becouse he will get into troubleand she will not get her toys or pets or see them anymore becouse of Grandma.Well she don't belive tham no more and opened right up to others not me ie the school...her counsler...foster mother...doc....so now they will have to listen I hope. So I will know then and I will put it in here the out come. I was told when CAS has had enough that means there getting a litlle pissed at all of this . Mind you know he has been worned about 15 times in the last 4 yrs not to do that to her what a joke. He will go in there monday and cry like he always does ...now that could a few things to (he was cought...or guilty ) but we know he is going to say Monica is lieing and his wife will say not in my house does this happen ( she works on weekends) so she is not there to say what is going on.he has a lot of alone time with Monica to much time i think for a man of his age. Christmas should be good this yr if things go right . Monica will beable to see real grandpa and the rest of the family to. well thats all for now I will be back on monday night to add more to this. I will never stop fighting for or with Monica for her RIGHT TO SAY NO!!!

I am but three *

*My eyes are swollen*

*I cannot see, *

 I must be stupid,*

 *I must be bad,*

 *What else could have made*

 *My daddy so mad?*

 I wish I were better,*

 *I wish I weren't ugly,*

*Then maybe my Mommy*

*Would still want to hug me.

* I can't speak at all,*

*I can't do a wrong*

*Or else I'm locked up*

*All the day long.

* When I awake I'm all alone*

 *The house is dark*

My folks aren't home.*

*When my Mommy does come*

 *I'll try and be nice,*

 So maybe I'll get just*

 *One whipping tonight.*

*Don't make a sound!*

*I just heard a car*

 My daddy is back*

*From Charlie's Bar.

* I hear him curse*

*My name he calls*

*I press myself*

*Against the wall.*

 *I try and hide*

 *From his evil eyes*

 *I'm so afraid now*

 I'm starting to cry.*

*He finds me weeping*

*He shouts ugly words,*

*He says its my fault*

 *That he suffers at work.

* He slaps me and hits me*

 *And yells at me more,*

*I finally get free*

 *And I run for the door.*

*He's already locked it*

*And I start to bawl,*

*He takes me and throws me*

*Against the hard wall.

* I fall to the floor*

*With my bones nearly broken,*

 *And my daddy continues*

*With more bad words spoken.*

 *"I'm sorry!" I scream*

 *But its now much too late*

 *His face has been twisted*

 *Into unimaginable hate.*

 *The hurt and the pain*

 *Again and again

* Oh please God, have mercy!*

*Oh please let it end!*

*And he finally stops*

*And heads for the door,*

*While I lay there motionless*

*Sprawled on the floor.

* My name is Sarah*

*And I am but three,*

 *Tonight my daddy Murdered me.

* There are thousands of kids out there just like Sarah. And you can help.* **~*~*AGAINST CHILD ABUSE *~*~*

Polycystic Ovary Syndrome

What would you do if your child arrived home in tears and told you that someone had touched her inappropriately or worse yet, had him perform a sexual act? Would you know what to do? Would you know what to say? As parents, we take every precaution to ensure the safety of our children: we teach them to look both ways before crossing the street, we talk to them about germs and remind them to wash their hands, we warn them against talking to strangers. But when it comes to sexual abuse, we often think it could never happen to our child, or that it couldn’t possibly be going on in our community - because if it were, we would know, wouldn’t we? We often get tongue-tied, or don’t know where to start.

Unfortunately, abuse is occurring quietly in many communities and in many different settings. And even more alarming when it comes to sexual abuse, the most common perpetrator is someone the child knows and trusts. An important step in combating abuse is empowering your children with the knowledge to recognize the signs of abuse, as well as how to get help for themselves or a friend, and how and when to report abuse. The thought of speaking to a child about sexual abuse leaves many parents feeling uneasy or nervous, but you are not alone.

Thousands of parents and caregivers across Canada feel the same way. Even professionals who work directly with young people may feel inadequately prepared to talk about the issue, let alone recognize the signs of abuse or handle a heart-wrenching disclosure. What should you say to your child about sexual abuse? How should you start the conversation? What questions should you ask? And what might your child ask you? For children and youth, talking about sexual abuse may be strange, uncomfortable, and anxiety- provoking.

 Some children may giggle or try to change the subject, but acknowledging that this is a normal reaction to an unfamiliar, yet important topic, and that you understand the way it makes them feel to discuss it, may help you both. One way to open the discussion is to say, “You know, we need to talk about something really important. It might make you feel embarrassed or shy, and that’s okay, but we need to talk about sexual abuse so that you will know what it is, where to get help, and how to help a friend. Unfortunately, there are many kids who are being sexually abused, and most often they feel so alone, as if there is no one to help them.

That is why it is important that kids like you know you are not alone and that there is help available.” It’s important to explain exactly what sexual abuse is to your child. According to A Shared Responsibility, the Red Cross educational program that deals with the prevention of child sexual abuse, this crime is defined as when an adult, adolescent or older child uses a younger child for his or her own sexual stimulation or gratification. It can involve everything from showing them pronography, making sexual comments, touching them in sexual areas or forcing them to touch another’s sexual areas. There is a range of contact and non-contact ways that sexual abuse may occur.

 Remember that many children and youth are persuaded to partake in sexual abuse; this does not mean that they are responsible for it. Sexual offenders are skilled at making their victims feel responsible. Many groom the children for a long period of time, developing a close, trusting relationship in order to manipulate the child more skilfully. Children and youth are the innocent victims and are never at fault for sexual abuse. If and when a young person finally gains the strength and courage to tell an adult, it is of utmost importance that the adult knows what to look for, how to respond and what action to take.

Children who have experienced sexual abuse may demonstrate some behavioral and social changes: their eating or sleeping habits may be different; they may no longer enjoy their extra curricular activities; changes may occur in their relationships; they could become more sexualized, provocative, or change their grooming routines. Victims of sexual abuse often hide their feelings, blame themselves, keep the secret, and rationalize the abuse by telling themselves it was not that bad, or it won’t happen again. Some seek attention through aggressive or self-destructive sexual behaviour, while others withdraw or try to escape by using drugs or running away. Sadly, some victims attempt or commit suicide.

Children need to know that almost always, sexual offenders are people that the victim trusts and even loves. They may be parents, siblings, other relatives, teachers, coaches, clergy, babysitters, neighbours, friends or strangers. No matter who approaches them, it is important to always tell them to trust their tummies - also known as their intuition. If anyone is doing something that makes them feel strange or uncomfortable, they should tell them to stop, leave the situation and tell someone they trust. Keeping the secret of abuse allows the abuse to continue, and the victim continues to be hurt.

 It is every person’s duty to report any suspected abuse (you don’t have to be able to prove it - investigating is the job of the authorities!). If a child or youth comes to you to disclose any form of abuse, or if your child’s friend talks to them, these are the important steps for you to take to make sure they are HEARD:

1. HEAR – Listen; do not promise not to tell – no secrets!

2. EMPATHIZE/ ENCOURAGE – “You are doing the right thing by telling me. I will make sure you get help.”

3. AFFIRM THE CHILD - “I believe you. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone.”

4. REPORT - Contact your local Children’s Aid Society or the police.

5. DOCUMENT – Write down the facts of what was said, when the disclosure was made, and any identifying information about the child to share with the authorities (i.e. name, address, siblings, date of birth).

 People often turn a blind eye to child abuse, not because they don’t care, but because they’re uncomfortable, or unsure of what to do. If a young person tells you that they are being harmed, listen to them, believe them, and help them. In addition, know how and when to report abuse to the proper authorities. Our worst nightmares don’t have to come true.

The Canadian Red Cross can provide you with more information about helping children and youth overcome abuse and what programs are offered in communities across Canada to prevent violence and abuse. Please visit our RespectED: Violence and Abuse Prevention web pages at www.redcross.ca/RespectED Child abuse can be prevented. Become a force for change in your community.

Amy Woods, BSW is a Provincial Coordinator for RespectED: Violence and Abuse Prevention at the Canadian Red Cross. With over 10 years of experience in children’s mental health, at-risk populations, and persons with disabilities, Amy has been instrumental in designing and implementing programs to marginalized groups across Ontario, and has provided training throughout the education and legal systems. Amy also provides training on the subjects of child abuse prevention, bullying and harassment.

Well what a day today .It all started off good but went down by this afternoon when i got a call from the school had to leave work . Come to find out they had called the police once again and CAS. Had a meeting with the police ,CAS,and the vice principal of her school to find its all going on still and there's nothing there going to do about it . The police say they can't yet because of no sexual assault has been done .I don't understand this at all Monica has come forward to let them know she does not want to go there anymore and all they do is find some one to blame (me) for all that has happened.CAS read me a report of the last complaint and it said .... this person goes to bed with Monica in his underwear with his hands down his pants and cuddles her ....Just found that out today. The school reported that last week and just today they came in because the police were.lets cover there ass.Conflict is another excuse they use on us because we have a no trespassing on them...well what did they expect when a man threatens your husband to beat him to death with a baseball bat . To save all the conflict we did what we had to do now its used on us .Conflict and we wont get along.Now tomorrow i have to go to the CAS office and have them tape Monica and what she says to them with the police there to . So i will see if they use that on me to . Its called to protect and serve still trying to figure that one out.Maybe the CAS but the kids . I will let ya know tomorrow what happens .Tonite Monica is in bed not wanting to go she has an upset stomach again and biting her nails.

<DIV>Well I am back it's been a long week here with Monica.More things are coming out from her every day . Not very nice things i might add weather its normal or not I am not sure. I know when a child is being abused things come out of them that they don't mean and they do things that are not acceable.Now i just have to fined the right way to handle&nbsp; her and theses moods for say.Now we are getting self abuse if by biting her skin around her&nbsp; big thumb until it bleeds...and still no sleeping..not eating good now...hurtful with words (hate word comes up lots) and we get sick every 2nd Thursday.Wont talk to anybody about it I believe its because that last time she had tried (CAS) would not listen to her told its all in the past. Well in my mind when its happening now that's not the past&nbsp; or last week&nbsp; or whatever.So now Monica we believe is scared to say anything else to anyone and why should she in her mind know one believes her right!! So now if that's the case where is her rights? I have the school backing me up and still nothing they are trying to make this get noticed but CAS has closed another book on MONICA.Now they say they investagate anyone out there explain what that is to me ? is it a phone call to ask if you did this because if that is it then why are there so many people in jails was because they did the calls and found they did it. I love my grandaughter with all my heart and want whats best for her I wish these people would get there heads out of there a** and help where it is needed . </DIV>

for my Grandaughter. Well were do i start here.Child Abuse is unexcepable in this world. But some pepole turn there backs when they see it or just dont want to admite it is happing. Childeren cant not defende them selfs thats where we come in I hope to put a stop to this.If you have seen the news or read a paper you see it everyday more and more childeren are being abused please help suport this . I do have peteiton but I do not know how to start one on here or i would .Childeren need our help out there so please do our part and pertect them as best as we can. Lots of people take a bad rap and some get away with it some think they can do whatever they want . But i dont think so This is a fight that will never end unless we all stand up for the rights of our kids and STOP CHILD ABUSE ...Grandma.